 
Balletlover - Balletmania
written by Pinktights_blackleotards@yahoo.com at on 31.07. at 14:08:21 - as answer to: Re: Trial Seperation by Tights Lover at >>>>>As of tomorrow Friday afternoon my wife and I will be trying a trial seperation. She says she needs time to get her feelings together. I am very sad btu trying to keep my head up and hope that she realizes she really does want to share her life with me. I have blown up several times this past week when we have gotten into heated discussions like she wants me out of the house but she wants me to be able to come over in the mornings and drive our kids to camp since she works early. >>>>>Now it's not that I don't want to see my kids because I really do and it'll hurt ther most not seeing them every night and morning but I don't think I should make this easy on her since it's her decision. But I guess I am a fool since I said I'd do it but they go the the gym I workout at for camp and I workout every morning so at least this way I'll get to see my kids every morning.>>>>>This weekend I'm going to the shore (Atlantic City) to spend the wekend with some friends and giver my wife the space she wants and feels she needs. >>>>>For the 1st 10 years of our marriage she never had a problem with me weaing tights with her or without her and dsuring sex she'd even wear them and would wear a full ballerina costume as I would during sex and we even video'd our sex with us both wearing tights and leotards. Then about 6 months ago she said she realized it really bothered her and didn't want to be a part of that nor see it so I stopped wearing them around her. >>>>>Well I'm bringing my pink, white, and black tights and my purple, maroon and black leotards to the shore so if anyone will be at the jersey shore this weekend respond and lets meet up.>>>>>Pink>>>>.>>>>.>>>>.>>>>.>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>Very sorry to hear that. They say free advice is worth what you paid for it, but here goes- >>>>1) Despite the current troubles, if you want a shot at reconciliation, be honorable, helpful & trustworthy. Even if things don't work out, at least you can hold your head up & know you took the high road. You mentioned going to the shore with your tights and seeking "meeting up". I'm not sure what the phrase "meeting up" means to you, but if you stay faithful to your wife despite how things are, you'll be proud of yourself later, whether things work out or not. Staying involved with your kids doesn't make you a fool, it makes you a good dad. You also mentioned you had "blown up" several times in the last week. If you love her & want to stay with her, ask yourself if bursts of anger makes that more, or less, likely. >>>>2) If you can afford it & she's willing, get to a good, experienced marriage counselor. Overcome any worries about opening up on topics of contention. They've heard it all, I'm sure. My guess is that your fetish is not the main problem, unless you're really insistent or pushy about it. Even then, it wouldn't be the fetish, since you mention that she never had a problem with it earlier on. More likely some other problem(s) resulted in her not feeling as intimate towards you, especially if regular sex, or even hugs, kisses, & sweet talk dropped off as well. >>>>Good luck to you. Be honorable. You won't regret doing the right thing.>>>> My 2 cents worth- Vic>>>I don't have any pearls of wisdom to offer you. I can only speculate that perhaps she is wondering if you love her, or her as the fantasy ballerina? In other words, do you love her, or her tights? Jealousy can make people act in strange ways. I do hope you can work this out and if need be, take a break from the tights and leotards. Although they are fun to be in, sometimes they can create problems.>>>I wish you two the very best.>>Thanks guys,>>For the record I stopped wearing and mentioning even the word tights around her back in March. Since at the tiime we were going through counseling then and she mentioned that the tights bothered her. And yes I did bring them with me to the shore but I have no desire to wear them. I only want to make things right for us. I care desperatley about her and my 3 beautiful kids.>>And wouldn't want to messa up any chance of us getting back together.>>>>As for blowing up my bursts of anger are more hurt than anger. And it's more about if she wants her freedom I want to give it to her not be there as her babysitter so she can come and go and always rely on me so she doesn't have to take care of things on her own. >>Yes I do love my kids and want to be with them at all times but if I'm not living there I'm not going to go out of my way so she can go on HER merry way.>>That's all for now.>>Thanks again>>Pink>I to want to add my wishes to you and your wife. I to hope you can work things out. But, you can not and should not try to act like wearing tights and leotards is something you can give up. I know from bitter experience that having a fetish for tights and leotards is as much a part of you as the color of your eyes and your wife should have been aware of this and be accepting of your fetish. I don't know why she all of a sudden feels uncomfortable with you wearing tights? I'm not trying to tell you what your next step should be, I'm just reminding you to not ignore what is part of your nature. >Best of luck to you. Thanks Tights Lover our marriage counselor, myself and my wife all agree with you but since it bothers her so much my counselor has advised me to keep it away from her for the time being(that was back in March) so that is what I do. I don't bring them out when she is home nor even the mention of the word tights doesn't come out of my mouth in front of her. I did let her know of my fetish before we were married but not until after we had been engaged. Although when we were dating I used to wear them all of the time with a leotard. I used to be a dancer so that was my excuse for wearing them around her and it just so happened that she thought I looked cute in them and 1 time we started fooling around when I was still wearing them and allthough I knew what I ws doing she thought it was neat so I continued and then another time I had her put them on so we were both wearing them and she didn't seem to mind at all I mean she was hot and wet and ready for sex very quickly and that had become a ritual since she seemed very turned on from it. Now she claims to be very square and not into any kind of kinky sex- not that wearing tights during sex consstitutes being kinky but... what ever... So I haven't worn them around her nor let her even see me open THAT drawer in months. Allthough for the last 2 nights I have slept in my white tights and loved every minute of it but I'd rather be home with my kids and wake up with them climbing on top of me. PTBL Answers to this message:
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