No one has ever questioned what I wear to my face. I suppose that people think it's eccentric, but the teacher is able to see inside of people and I think we have an unspoken understanding. She never pretends I'm a woman no matter what I wear, which I appreciate. She's glad to see me get gigs (which means less time in her class to study en pointe), and understands I don't dance more full-time because I have another career at this point. If she thought my style of dress were a problem, I'd wear something different and continue with the class, she is an excellent teacher. I might wear something else anyway, if I feel like it.
I know what you mean about fitting in, it's nice not to feel "different" for once.
Being able to see yourself in a leotard and tights, and working in pointe class, allows you to use your body and develop your technique to a new level of exactness and precision. That is a wonderful feeling.
I'm also studying modern dance now. Interestingly, you don't have to wear pink tights to "fit in" there, it's much less of a hyper-feminine environment.[/i]