written by balletboy  on 29.01. at 03:35:17

I don't quite understand your respones. The idea of male danseur and gay are a real part of life, and should be met head-on!

>>My son would like to learn ballet. His mother was a dancer in her youth, and is very happy about our son's request. My concerns are about the notion that male dancers are mostly gay.

The father in this case seems worried that his son will end up some type of fairy, flitting around other men for sexual favors.  My advice is that the father should inform his son of the sexual possibilities that may arise in the boy's dance career.  So many patents do not teach thier children about sexuality.  

I don't want any boy to decide to be homosexual....because the world hates us so much.  It that's the boy's selection and he wants to  pursue a career in  dance, I want him to know he is not alone. How much is that true? Of course there are quite some gay dancers. But it is also the case that being gay is much more easily expressed in an art field then for example in the office of a bank.

>> However, I think that because of the physical nature of dance there is a certain risk for both boys and girls to experience some unpleasant approaches especially when they are young and vulnerable. For example it is accepted that you as a dancer are being touched when a teacher wants to show you a correction in your posture. So, it might be normal that he touches your buttocks for example. The big question is of course does he touch you because of ... or for something else.

That's the nature of dance!

>The best way to deal with this is to be clear to your son what is normal behaviour and what not and to create an atmosphere in which he can be open to you if he has doubts about things that happen. Unwanted approaches - you will not be able to prevent happening that. Possible misabuse you can to a large extent prevent by giving information and by creating an opportunity to communicate - be it with you or with his mother. And as always: playing football and the military is also not without risk. Let it never be a reason not to do what someone really wants in life.

>> Having danced for over more than 15 years and working as a business director for a professional dance company to my opinion serious misabuse is quite rare and not so much an issue in the field. In general dancers tend to treat each other in an open and respectfull way. An amazing large part of them ends up being married with a girl.

So this balletmaster believes men will find what suits them.  I say that  the boy ahs to try any alternative!>>I donot want my son in that type of enviroment. When I read the comments by a so-called " balletboy" on this forum I get worried about this issue. I feel like that this is a forum for gay trolling by many of the comments that are made.

balletboy does not need to troll for dates!

This forum is not so clear for ballet-boys.  I have offered sites that may be more apropritae for younger guys.

>> Unfortunately some gays seem to do quite some effort to make sure that they will never be socially accepted. Just like straight men can talk about women.

Some day a gay male may be accepted for the love and caring he has for his partner.  Some day the general public will undersant that some gay males want to just simply love another man.

Gay males don't always want to masturbate with another male.  Some gay males want to pursue their partner's happiness.

We are human, and have human feelings.

balletbuddy