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Re: But.....

written by joy_of_dance@yahoo.com at  on 09.12. at 08:40:30 - as answer to: Re: But..... by scandiboy at
>Im from scandinavia. way up north you know. I don't think i'll quit the class i'm currently attending, but i'm thinking about attending another class as well. The ballet teacher always makes us boys dance together. When it comes to tights we have actually discussed it. -No way i'm wearing it-, one of them said, the other think it's too early. But he considers it when he gets more advanced. me, of course, would like to start wearing them right now. I have considered wearing woollen black tights, without feet, but what i really would like to wear is a white snug lycra tights, with feet, but i find it too scary... Still i have a great view towards delicious female legs, all dressed in tights, so sexy... hah!

one of the most important things about doing ballet myselfwas (is/will be) the opportunity to be myself and to overcome shame and constant need for approval of other for whatever I do

this goes for my dancing talent/skill/techniquefor my body/weak muscles/non-slim waistas well as for my attire: tights, leotard, slippers

of course, to a shy guy like you and most of usit is very important to be accepted by the teacher and the rest of the group

but, luckily, the majority of dancers are girlsand be assured *they* do not object you wearing tightsif there would be a girl finding it odd/inapropriate/funnyshe would not show or even change her mind seing the (no)reaction of the teacherand a ballet teacher would have many things to comment to any studentbut wearing tights would not be the oneas others pointed out, the teacher would actually encourage you to wear tights

I myself wondered why my teacher (and other teachers whose classes I attended) did not require me to wear tightsand finaly asked themthe answer was simple: adult dancers and especialy males are so shythat teachers believe strict dress code would even further discourage them

actually, I wore tights from my second classbut I wore wide T-shirt because I was ashamed of that extra fat on my waistand thought other girls in the class would be grossed-out if they saw it

then my teacher (the second one) started lifting and rolling my shirt while showing, checking and correcting me

one day I collected all my currage and appeared without T-shirt, just in unitard or leotardand .... I never wore a T-shirt again

many people in this forum will tell you that (seroiusly) dancing keeps you so much bussy that you do not have much time to look what others wear or do and to critisize them

besides, if the teacher is a good onethe spirit in the calss is the one of comeraderyrather than competition

finally a personal story to share with you:one day our teacher declared that the date is approaching whaen we would start pointe technique

my heart stopped and I had troubles looking indifferentbecause I very much wanted to try pointe (and was afraid of it in the same time)however, I did not dare to ask whether that included me,the only male in the group (actually in the studio), tooI did not dare, because I was afraid that the answer would be "no"

however, a girl, loughingly asked "him too?"other girls looked at the teacher with more or less same expression on the face: "of course NOT, men do NOT do pointe"

to my delight, the teacher mattter-of-factly replied "him too"

the girl was persistent: "male really dance en pointe?"

the answer was: "no, they do not. but pointe excercise is great and important for strenghtening the feet"

and that was it

now I do pointe (in pink shoes, but this is yet another story :))

and no-one objects/frowns/laughsbeacause we all have the same problems and aspirations with pointe excersises

the moral of this story is that the teacher is the one who sets the rules

thus, go for tights, leotards and whatever you like

if you are so very shy than the only thing to do is to talk to your teacheropenly ask her: "I thought wearing tights in the class would be the right thing to doto improve the moves and to better display good and wrong things I do in technique.I would be glad to wear thembut am shyand do not know whether you think it is proper.what do you suggest?"

I could bet I know the answerand you would like it :)))

this is actually what I did when I wanted to swich from black to grey ones

joy-o-dance

P.S. as for your male colleague who thinks he might wear tight when his technique improvesI have a good and a bad news: the bad one is that the technique is *never* good enough :) it requires continuous practice and improvementswhile the good one bieng the fact that one of the major reasons to wear tights is to enable the teacher to see the things that you do *wrong*:)


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