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Re: See, this is the problem....

written by balletboy  on 31.01. at 22:10:47 - as answer to: See, this is the problem.... by Mancer at
Hi Mancer!

Sure we are supposed to identify with a certain sexuality at birth.  That's the anatomy assigned "sex."  But a person's "sexuality" is different.  Sexuality means how we relate to other people on an intimate level, and not necessarily what sexual act we have with them.  I believe I understand male sexuality and like to be intimate with males, which does not mean a sex act has to occur.  But society today has a hard time differentiating between sexuality and sex acts.

The thing that puzzeles me is that society is so ready to assume that male ballet dancers engage in male to male sex acts.  Why is that?  I've been with a few male danseurs where we just engaging in close body contact on the couch while watching some dance video, but never thought of having a sex act.  Our mutual interests in the male danseur made us close, even "intimate," but not interested in a sex act.

So why would some society-goer expect that we ended up in a sex act?  That is the question.

Maybe too many society-goers believe that the purpose of life is a sex act.  They cannot appreciate sexuality that occurs outside of a sex act.

Just my humble opinion.  Maybe society-goers have too narrow thought patterns to understand that people can be sexual without sex acts.

balletboy

Identification of sexuality is the first thing that happens when we are a child.  Is it a boy or a girl?>Then it gets repressed and somehow pigeonholed into categories like if you dance ballet you are either gay, a sissy or feminate due to what is acceptable role behavior for the gender.>A guy moving gracefully across the floor can be very sexual.  A woman moving across the floor in a sticatto movement can also be very sexual.>Being sexual is an innate part of our being.  >Our ability to express our sexuality is repressed by (especially american) society as we have "Acceptable sexual identification norms" imposed by who?>It is imposed by the closed minded which makes society mediocre and without pizzaz and true freedom of individual expression through whatever means.  It is very difficult to put yourself out there for society to accept and cultivate.>Expression of being sexual and individual sexuality is the second step in changine society.  Accepting, embracing and expressing your own sexuality is the first step.>I think if more american's both male and female, put there sexuality out there for the public to see the more accepting society will become.


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